I mentioned in the previous post that Jason and I had been talking about adoption since we were dating. Let me share a little story from that time in our life…
We were probably three dates into our new relationship and Jason and I were fairly certain that this relationship would lead to marriage. We were sitting out by the Cedar Valley River after dinner and somehow our conversations turned to children. I had wanted a large family of my own since I was a little girl, and at the time, I was pretty sure they would all be biological, potentially an adopted child in the mix…maybe. The first words out of Jason’s mouth in regards to children that night were “I don’t think I want any of my own. I’d like to adopt all of my children.” Now, you have to remember that this was Sarah from three years ago and not the Sarah today who has grown and matured. I about broke up with him on the spot. Literally.
He then went on to explain his heart. He had recognized how blessed he had been growing up with such a strong, godly family and he wanted his home to be home of refuge to orphaned children and he also wanted to be a better picture of the Heavenly Father than what they may have experienced elsewhere. My resolve softened and I decided that we could keep dating, but believed that he would come around sometime to us having our own as well!
We laugh now about that “prophecy date” because little did we know that God would be leading us down the road of adoption within two years of marriage!
To bring it back to the story…
During this past year, adoption had become more of a topic in our household because our best friends here in Tucson were in the process of adopting an infant domestically and a child from Ethiopia. In June, they were placed with their little baby boy (domestic) and our hearts swelled with thankfulness for God’s provision and His timing for them, along with a love for this beautiful little baby. So, needles to say, adoption became a true reality in our lives.
In our conversations throughout the year, the timing of when we would adopt kept getting closer to the present. God began to chip away at my plans and changed my heart on adoption after I read a book “7: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess” by Jen Hatmaker. In the book, she shares a bit of her journey with adopting two of her children from Africa and my heart began to break for the orphan. Along with that, I began to read Adopted for Life (haven’t finished it yet) and the beauty of the gospel shown through adoption began to stir in both Jason and I a desire to be a part of that redemption story for someone else through adoption.
Four weeks ago, our feet started to match our talk. We felt ready (but who really feels ready? more like we finally listened and obeyed!) to take a step of faith into what we had been praying about for months and desiring for longer, we were ready to be parents. I made a phone call while we were in Madison to an adoption agency in Tucson. In my shaky, nervous voice I told the woman on the other side of the phone that Jason and I were interested in a domestic infant adoption. At the end of that phone conversation, a meeting had been scheduled to talk with her about the next steps to take as prospective adoptive parents.
That meeting took place about four days ago. We have signed papers and been given more paperwork than I know what to do with! But it’s official! Jason and I are adopting! Yesterday I turned in our initial paperwork and tomorrow I get started on what’s called a Home Study.
Jason and I have so much more to learn, but one thing we are most thankful for is that God did not lead us down this path alone. Our best friends Josh & Katie have been some of our biggest cheerleaders and encouragers in this journey as they are just finishing up one part of theirs and waiting for their Ethiopian baby to be home with them. We are thankful that our parents are behind us and that we have a church community that loves and supports us. We don’t know what the road looks like from here, but we do know that we have a great God who adopted us into His family and desires His best for us. We know that He will provide the finances needed to bring this baby and others home. We know that He has already hand chosen our children, He knows their names, their eye color & skin color. He knows those babies and loves them more than I ever could. Yep, I don’t have to worry. God knows.